Some people say that maturity is nothing more than becoming more sophisticated and sophisticated with increasing age and experience.
In fact, true maturity has nothing to do with age or experience, it is knowledge of the world without being sophisticated.
Mature people know how to measure the most.
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do things well
The Tao Te Ching says: "Quiet is the irritable monarch, and the emphasis is on the light of the root. If it is light, it will lose the root, and if it is irritable, it will lose the king.
means that heaviness is the root of recklessness, and tranquility is the master of restlessness;
And rash will lose the root, impatience will lose the dominant.
Mature people are good at grasping the heat of things, and they can always advance and retreat with a degree in doing things.
During the Warring States Period, Lin Xiangru was awarded the title of Shangqing for his many contributions to the country, and he was placed above the general Lianpo.
Lianpo was very dissatisfied and threatened to humiliate him if he saw Lin.
After Lin Xiangru heard about it, for the sake of the overall situation, he tried not to meet with Lian Po as much as possible.
Sometimes, in order to avoid a “negational encounter” with Lianpo, he even said that he would not go to court because of illness.
Regarding Lin Xiangru's "benevolence and kneeling", his subordinates couldn't stand it anymore, and they all offered to leave their hometown.
Lin Xiangru patiently explained: "I avoid General Lian everywhere, not because I am afraid of him, but focusing on national interests.
If we two fight each other, there will be an injury, which gives Qin a good opportunity. "
After listening to this, his men were very moved and admired Lin Xiangru's generosity even more.
After this, these words reached Lian Po's ears.
Lian was deeply ashamed, so he made a move to plead guilty.
From then on, the generals of Zhao were in harmony, and the country was greatly strengthened.
Xiangru endured humiliation for the benefit of the country, and could advance or retreat. It was his understanding of measure that brought this harmony.
There is a ruler in society and a degree in life.
Being well-measured is the greatest wisdom in life.
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speak well
In "Xiao Chuang You Ji", it said: "It makes people happy at first sight, but not as long as it makes people feel bored."
means that to make the other person feel happy about their first dating, it is better to have been together for a long time without making the other person feel disgusted.
How to do it? Proper speaking is a major manifestation.
When it comes to speaking well, Grandma Liu in "A Dream of Red Mansions" is definitely a powerful character.
Don't think that Grandma Liu is an old country woman, but the two entrances to the Grand View Garden show a sense of textbook sense of measure.
Grandma Liu entered Rongguo Mansion for the second time. Jia Mu took her to visit the Grand View Garden. The first place came to Lin Daiyu’s Xiaoxiang Pavilion.
Although I don't know who the owner of this courtyard is, Grandma Liu has estimated this person's position in Jia's mother's heart.
So, when she saw the books full of the room, she said casually: "This is like a lady's embroidery room, it is obviously the son's study."
A seemingly inadvertent sentence, but boasted to everyone's heart, Jia's mother was even more exasperated.
When I arrived at Xue Baochai’s Hengwu Garden, Jia’s mother felt ashamed in front of her relatives because her room was too simple, so she slapped Aunt Xue with her head and face.
At this time, Grandma Liu also closed her mouth sensibly, and quietly watched others come to round the field.
It is because of this innocent sense of precision that Grandma Liu is very liked in the Grand View Garden, and even Wang Xifeng, who is so calculating, takes her as his own.
A mature person can always give people a sense of spring breeze.
Speaking well, people who know what to say and what not to say are naturally more popular.
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Emotionally measured
In Ming Dynasty Zhu Dagon said in "Guanweizi", a person with good qualities,
"Can tolerate what people cannot tolerate, tolerate what people cannot tolerate, and where people cannot be."
Mature people can control their emotions just right.
Lin Zexu, a famous official who banned smoking in the late Qing Dynasty, was very irritable when he was young.
In order to change his temper, his father Lin Binri told him this story:
There used to be a judge who had a quick temper.
One day, two people twisted a young man.
They said to the judge: "This man is an unfilial son, and he will beat or scold his mother."
The judge became very angry when he heard it, and immediately let the young man beat the young man 50 times.
At this time, an old woman with a cane came to the judge for help:
"Two thieves sneaked into my backyard just now, trying to steal my cattle.
After my son found out, he wanted to report to an official, but was tied up by two thieves.
Ask the adults to call the shots for me, I only have such a filial piety! "
At this moment, the person who was knocked out suddenly groaned. It turned out that this was the old man's son.
Seeing that his son was beaten to blood, the old man fell to the ground with anxiety.
The judge was very remorseful, and he didn't think that his irritability would do something bad with kindness.
After listening to the story, Lin Zexu suddenly realized, and since then he has paid great attention to restraining his temper.
After becoming an official, he did not forget his father's teachings, hand-written the word "control anger", and warned myself to restrain anger.
There is a saying: "When you have a temper, it is instinct to utter it, and it is the ability to control it."
Losing your temper when encountering things is a manifestation of weak will and lack of self-cultivation.
Really mature people are good at masters of emotions, and are not influenced by emotions.
Instructions "There is calmness in every major event", which is not only the wisdom of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, but also the wisdom of being mellow in the world.
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