I hope you're doing well, but you can't be better than me
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On the weekend, a car was passing by the Erhai seaside, with a vast expanse of smoke and water, gazing at the autumn light.
There are five women sitting in the car, all friends who live in the same community. Two of them are college classmates, and it is said that after graduation, they bought a house together in Dali and became neighbors to each other, which is enviable.
A friend suggested in a small group that we go to Jinsuo Island together on weekends to watch the sunset at sea. Originally, all the tickets were approved, and before departure, various snacks were taken with us. We gathered excitedly and cheered like elementary school students at a sports meeting.
But halfway through the journey, everyone got off their cars and left unhappily.
Something like this happened midway through.
When the car arrived at "Haidong", a friend suggested taking turns telling jokes. The rule was that the island with the most abundant jokes was covered by several others, while the oldest joke was to buy afternoon tea for everyone.
Everyone readily agreed.
Starting from the co pilot, the pace was quite good at first. When it was the turn of this pair of classmates, A volunteered and said, 'I'll start with it, I'll talk three times at a time, and the whole car shook with laughter. This girl is very talented in telling jokes, and everyone thinks she's outgoing and fun.'.
It's time for Classmate B, and after a long silence, I glanced in the rearview mirror and blushed to the base of my ears, nervously like a primary school student being questioned by the teacher.
A friend in the back row saw this and quickly broke free, saying, 'If you don't have it, you can skip it.'.
Classmate A is happy, why not? She has it. Hurry up, you can think about it.
The prompt worked, and classmate B spoke up, "One day, a short man came over and asked me, 'Why don't you play basketball so tall...'
Hahaha, then you went back to him and said, 'Why don't you sell pancakes so short?' I've heard of that before. Classmate A snatched the conversation.
Classmate B blushed with embarrassment and then said, "A classmate suddenly came over and asked me, 'Do you have' A Brief History of Time '...'
'Are you sick? I don't know how to pick up shit when I have time?' Hahaha, I knew you didn't have a joke that I hadn't heard before. 'A classmate went up and gave her a hat without hesitation.
Are you Miss Dong? "Classmate B's face was a bit off color.
Who is Miss Dong? My surname is Zhao! "The girl was confused and gave her a dissatisfied look.
You're not Miss Dong still pretending to understand everything here
Finally, the joke was so cold that a whole car couldn't speak. After a few rounds of confrontation in the endless loop of 'What do you mean? What do you mean?', the two of them tore their faces and got off the car.
So, a pleasant weekend vacation plan went smoothly to waste.
The most basic way to get along with others is not to mention pride in front of disappointed people.
The best kindness of a friend is to be able to hold back and protect the joy of others.
02
One day, you led your long legged daughter-in-law back to the village from the United States.
As soon as your grandfather was happy, he set off a whip and scared the dog at the village entrance to run out two miles with his buttocks pursed.
Upon hearing the news, your elementary school classmate Wang Mazi rushed over and took a cigarette to glance at your large buttocks and round waist foreign daughter-in-law. With a hint of yellow teeth, he called out your nickname, "Oh, Er Gouzi, you're amazing, my brother. How developed are you?
You coyly made a start by saying, 'I've been in the United States for those years...' Before we even got to the main topic, Wang Mazi rolled his eyes and waved his hand. Forget it, going abroad is great, and even if we say it, we can't understand.
Until one day, you heard that Wang Mazi was telling his classmates everywhere that Er Gouzi was different from before, boasting about the bad things about going abroad with his mouth shut.
Until one day, when you said you were going abroad, someone handed over a sentence saying 'Your family is really rich'.
You only know.
Some things, in your opinion, this is your life, but in others' eyes, it may be a slap in the face.
There are some ugly things in human nature, such as laughing and hating others.
For example, when you see unrelated people living better than you, you may envy them, but when you see those around you living better, you become jealous.
03
A girl once told me a story about her and her closest friend.
After discussing her boyfriend in her freshman year, she crazily introduced her boyfriend to her best friend because she was worried that her best friend would steal her boyfriend.
However, she doesn't want her best friend's boyfriend to be better off than her own.
So when Gao Fushuai chased her best friend, her best friend came to seek her advice recklessly. She advised her best friend to refuse because wealthy and handsome people cannot be trusted.
Later, the boyfriend she introduced to her best friend, who took away her first night, angrily abandoned her on the grounds that "the first night did not bleed".
She said that when she hugged her best friend to comfort her, she didn't know why, didn't feel angry, but her heart felt a hint of relief.
In her eyes, her best friend is not as good as her in terms of appearance, talent, and family background, so she doesn't deserve a better life than her.
In her own words, 'I hope she's good, but she can't be better than me'.
After graduation, she was surprised to hear that her best friend had the opportunity to go abroad. What made her even more unbearable was that she was still unmarried at an old age, but her best friend married a handsome man from a wealthy family. Her husband treated her like a treasure and even posted big belly photos on her social media.
She secretly mocked and mocked, believing that all the photos of her best friends in her circle of friends had been taken by P, but it wasn't until recently that she realized what transformation is.
When telling me this story, she was eating instant noodles in an 8 square meter rental house in Pudong, Shanghai, with a stack of resumes in hand. She said she had an interview scheduled for 1 pm in the afternoon, and it was still raining heavily outside.
She cried as she spoke.
She said that whenever she came, she would be completely disillusioned. She didn't want to read, work, or go out, thinking that everything was meaningless. Just now, she was trying to persuade her best friend not to have children so early, which would damage the relationship between husband and wife.
So, she asked me if she was sick?
I said, you are sick, suffering from a disease that cannot be seen as good as others.
Some people, unwilling to work hard to improve themselves, will try to set a plan to rot with others.
The more one cannot treat the happiness of others with a calm heart, the more likely it is to breed resentment, hurt others, and harm oneself.
In 'You from the Stars', Qian Songyi tries to crush her' best friend 'by saying:
The human heart is like this. People who see places better than themselves do not think that I will also go there, but that you also come to my quagmire, come down, come down. However, I'm sorry, I won't go down.
Nietzsche wrote in "Companion with Solitude": "People who are unique and independent are always repulsive because their unique way of life makes people around them feel inferior.
So, around excellent people, there is often a kind of inferiority complex that cannot tolerate others in a 360 degree perspective.
When they mention the post-90s generation, they sneer at "a group of murderers who don't understand their nonsense and are still flirtatious"; when they see middle-aged people reposting health posts, they say they are brainless low B; when they see beautiful girls being particularly popular, they say that this kind of scoundrel only points to a fox like charm.
Why don't you see that the post-90s generation can go through a lot of hardships just for a promise? How can you be sure that middle-aged people are not forwarding health messages to remind their sons who are working outside to pay attention to their health? How can you understand the dignity of a girl who can rely on her face to eat but relies on her strength to eat?
The growth logic of these people is very strange. When they see the people around them developed, their first reaction is not joy, but suppression and belittling.
Jealousy is human nature, and everyone has it. However, as an adult, one must always adjust oneself from crying with envy to laughing with envy.
A twisted person's problem usually lies not in their innate despicability, but in their willingness to be mediocre, constantly making excuses to refuse improvement, and trying to assimilate others with mediocrity.
A person who is jealous of you likes to use their own values to kidnap you.
A person who envies you will strive to change themselves.
Author Introduction: Chu Xiaogui, a female from Shandong Aquarius, is an online novel author and former director of planning and operation for a certain internet company. The article is sourced from the official account "Haoniaogui" (ID: moixiaogui) and Weibo: @ Chuxiaogui.
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