Why am I more talented than you and not as good as you?
Wen/Huizi
01
Many times you are not unable, but you don't know.
I remember in August last year, I was still a sophomore college student who was having a romantic relationship.
At that time, my daily thoughts were about what TV dramas to watch today, what to post, and how to make male voters like me more.
But at that time, I was the class monitor, and most of the people in the class were the kind who couldn't open their books, let alone go to class.
And I can flip through books, comfort myself and prove that I am still learning, so most of my classmates think I am very motivated and excellent.
I was mesmerized by this belief, and at that time, I really thought I was doing well.
At least, compared to reading books, I also know how to improve. I am already great.
Until October, my love and friendship had problems. Because I was too confused, I decided to go outside and take a look. So I went to Chengdu alone to participate in a two day and one night activity.
Most of the participants in the event were students from key universities. After learning about it, I suddenly felt a bit unsure because I was a junior college student.
Some of them will immediately go to other provinces to participate in international debate competitions, some are preparing their own GAPYEAR, some are starting a business, some are preparing to study abroad, and so on.
At that time, I realized that I had always thought I was pretty good, but in fact, I didn't have any outstanding abilities or educational background, and I was still so proud and complacent.
There are really many people who work harder than me and are better than me.
That event was like opening up a new world for me, and it was a big change in my future direction.
I found that besides discussing what TV dramas look good and how to dress well every day, I can still live like this. Live for your dreams and do what you truly want to do.
After participating in the activity, I started reading books, participating in more activities, and getting in touch with more people.
Even if it takes two hours by car to Chengdu, I am willing to go.
If I don't go out and meet people who are better than me, I may only hear others say, 'People who are stronger than you work harder than you,' but I never truly feel it.
I may continue to live in my comfort zone, thinking that I have worked hard.
02
We always think we can't do many things, but in reality we can.
Before joining a writing group, I thought that the person who can open a official account to write is a super talented person.
And I feel like I'm definitely not good at it. I passed Chinese language once in high school, and my writing style is not good at all, so why talk about writing.
After joining the writing group, I found that many people are writing and building their own personal brand.
At first, I thought it was difficult to do this, but in two months, I watched the writing group's friends grow rapidly, from 0 fans to 1000+, from no personal brand to being proficient in it.
It never occurred to me that I could open a official account, start writing, and insist on a daily shift with my friends in the writing group.
Only when I started writing, did I realize how difficult it was to improve my daily life.
In the writing group, there are many friends who work during the day and take care of their children after returning home at night, all of whom insist on having one shift every day.
I asked them how they did it?
Using fragmented time, such as waiting time, taking the car time, walking time (recorded by voice), cooking time (listening to the course audio), if it's really not possible, just wake up an hour early. There will always be time squeeze
This answer really touched me.
I started using fragmented time to conceive articles, and I started trying to get up at 5 o'clock to read and write. Although my writing is not very good, I believe that with hard work, there will be gains, at least in growth.
In the week when I insisted on changing the text, some editors found and official account requested to reprint and reorganize the articles, which were reprinted by big TVs. This is just something that happened within a week, which I have never thought about before.
Originally, I can still write.
I thought of a sentence from Cat Master:
When your perspective opens up, you will know more possibilities for life, perhaps you will not live like you do now, and you will find the direction of life“
And once a person finds their direction and finds what they like, their execution will definitely not be poor
03
When I told my classmates that I had opened a WeChat official account and wanted to learn new media.
She asked me: "What is WeChat official account? What is new media?"
I can be considered the one who has participated in the most activities outside of our school. I have gained a lot and always want to share my experiences with the classmates around me.
But I was asked, "Are you a member of any pyramid scheme organization
When asked such a question, I realized that I had come a long way.
But many people around me are still standing still without any sense of crisis.
Many people ask me, why did you suddenly work so hard?
Sometimes I want to start working hard, not because I have drunk too much chicken soup, but because I have seen a bigger world. I have found that life is not just about making money, getting married, having children. I have found that there are many possibilities and ways of living in my life.
Such an interesting life, of course I want to work hard to live it well!
How important is vision?
If I don't go out and take a look,
I may still be feeling dejected and asking others, "How can I capture a man's heart;
I may still be taking selfies repeatedly now, and then taking pictures for half an hour until I am perfect before posting on my social media;
I may still be roast to my friends about what they said today.
I can't imagine living that life again.
If you don't have a vision, you know too little, and your chances of life are too low. You always feel like you can't do this or that.
Then your expectations for yourself will not be relaxed or improved, and the effort you put in will also be different from others.
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