The smartest person in marriage
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For a long time, many people did not understand why Grace had to go to work because her husband's family background was enough for her to have no worries for the rest of her life.
After giving birth, she went back to the company to work as an administrative officer, and now she has become the administrative director. A monthly salary of over 6000 yuan is enough to support her expenses in a small city.
However, there will still be many people's focus, falling on the label of wives of the "wealthy second generation" who are unwilling to remain silent after marrying into a wealthy family.
At that time, Grace always told me that in marriage, we should maintain material and spiritual independence, so that even if we lose our marriage, we won't have nothing.
Just like a few days ago, the news of her separation from Lao Miao came from her mouth. I didn't ask her too much, but luckily, she didn't bind herself to the marriage, so she could calmly see through. Regardless of whether she can continue or not, at least she has the preparation to live independently and the ability to face the future independently.
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We don't know when every character in a marriage will end.
But all the ups and downs of life fall into the realm of fuel, rice, oil, and salt. When I thought I could taste all the delicacies of the mountains and seas, I found out in the end that I had to travel through mountains and rivers before I could reach the white haired and gray sky. It is inevitable that some people will not persist in reaching the finish line and get off halfway. So, the ability to remain single is particularly important.
Nurture each other in love, and settle down after parting. We must always have the ability to eat alone, sleep alone, watch movies alone, and travel far distances alone; One person makes decisions for themselves, while the other pays for their future; A person who wants to go far away doesn't need to reach out for money, and being able to have a drink and have fun with a large group of people won't make them lonely.
The ability to remain single is nothing more than to prevent oneself from losing the owner's pet and wandering on the streets after another person leaves, requiring the ability to make a living again and reshaping the confidence to face everything.
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I once visited the female boss of a company with a friend.
She founded the company after divorce from her husband.
She also doesn't shy away from saying that this woman in her 40s already has the aura of a hundred classic shopping mall between her eyebrows, but there is still a little bit of commendable frankness, which gives her the cuteness of middle-aged people.
When we got divorced, it felt like the sky was falling. Don't look at me now, I'm very thin and pretty. I used to lose the weight that I couldn't lose for more than 30 years, and it took me a month to lose it, and I never gained weight again. I have parents on one hand, and children on the other. I used to be a full-time wife, and I was used to enjoying myself at home, but when I left, I was very embarrassed because I realized I didn't know anything
What I particularly regretted at that time was that after marrying him, I was prepared to rely on him for a lifetime. Now, when I think of it, it's not just a small bird or a parasite. Without a deposit, I can't survive
I went to the supermarket to work as a salesperson for a period of time, from 9am to 6pm, with a monthly salary of 600 yuan. There was no way, life always had to continue. Later, I thought about it, and when I was in technical secondary school, my major was secretarial, and I could also write some small articles. So I started to work in one company after another, writing copywriting and advertising slogans. Slowly, I found my way out
Entrepreneurship is very difficult, isn't it? However, it has helped me understand some things. For example, if I enter a marriage, I must at least have the ability to run away. It doesn't mean I'm not loyal, it means I shouldn't be hurt by others
She said that sometimes, it is always necessary to prepare for something that can bear the burden alone. Time flies, you never know when you will be alone and need to walk a long way.
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Nowadays, many young girls still have the idea of marrying wealthy or powerful people, as if once they join the powerful, they can be at ease from now on.
However, at any time, what destroys a person is often comfort. In marriage, the smartest people often have both the determination to support and support each other, as well as the ability to explore the world independently.
Lao Chen and I have been in love for 5 years and married for 3 years. What we have always maintained is our independence from each other.
We played a joke and I said, 'If you leave me, maybe you can find a better woman than me.'; And if I leave you, I can find someone better than you.
He nodded and said, 'I believe you can, and I also believe I can.'.
In fact, we are just tacit, and each other is not irreplaceable. Even if this moment is irreplaceable, the next moment may not be so determined.
But no matter when, we all know that we will not rely on others economically, and we will also maintain absolute independence spiritually.
five
Just like someone wrote about Zhang Youyi, "Life is always achieved by oneself.
Many times, it takes us a long time to become understanding people, to understand ourselves as a person, to understand that everything we have is safe only if we give it ourselves, to understand that in the long and long days, the person holding hands is ourselves, and the one who understands us the most is ourselves.
Every relationship is serious, but every relationship is also independent. Both men and women should be like this.
We must always know that life is a journey that will eventually show its beauty. You have to walk the way, and good and bad things will appear. There may be many people who accompany you to the finish line, or perhaps you are the only one.
(责任编辑：立暖) |