Recently, because of the composition of the college entrance examination, the TV series "Awakening Age" has once again become popular.
There is a plot in the play that touches me deeply.
Gu Hongming, known as "the first strange man in modern China", because he was too arrogant and conservative, the teachers and students of Beijing strongly demanded that he be expelled from the school.
When Gu Hongming was about to lose his foothold at Peking University, Cai Yuanpei, the principal at the time, helped him stay amidst opposition.
Later, Cai Yuanpei left Peking University with a book, and there was a lot of discussion on campus.
At this time, Gu Hongming stepped forward and tried his best to defend Cai Yuanpei: "I believe that Gu Hongming will not abandon Peking University."
Walking in the world, crossing people is crossing oneself.
When everyone has no umbrella on rainy days, if you hold an umbrella for others, it will turn into an eaves to hide from the rain in the future.
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leave room to speak, it is a high-level emotional intelligence.
Zhang Weili’s story should be familiar to everyone.
On March 6th last year, in Las Vegas, China’s first UFC champion Zhang Weili confronted Joanna, who is known as the “queen” of the fighting world.
As soon as they met, Joanna provoked:
"I promise you, you have never met such a strong opponent, I will blow you up."
These words sounded very uncomfortable, but Zhang Weili just smiled and said: "Shut up!"
After two days of official competition, after five rounds of fierce battle, Zhang Weili defeated Joanna and successfully defended her title.
Faced with Joanna’s insult, Zhang Weili’s post-match response was polite and respectful, which was admirable:
"Actually, I don't know if I can win this game. I am very happy to win the game. Everyone in this octagonal cage is worthy of respect. I don't want to talk rubbish in the octagonal cage.
I think all warriors on this platform need to respect each other and set a good example for the children.
We are champions, not tyrants. "
Comparing the two, the superiority and the inferiority are instant.
There is a proverb that puts it well: "Everything has a degree, and if you go too far, you will be disgusted with it."
People who love to be prestigious are often open-minded and unpleasant, and in the end everyone shuns them.
A real strong man has a ruler in his heart and a degree in his mouth.
Besides, the world is unpredictable and you never know what will happen next second.
There is room for talking, so that you can move forward and retreat freely, and don't put yourself in an awkward situation.
"The Book of Changes" says: Things must be reversed, or go to Tailai.
The ancient people's understanding of this sentence is quite brilliant:
"You can't go to the extreme, and there is no way to continue; the words cannot be called absolute, and the absolute is unreasonable to continue."
Not full of words is the most basic respect for others, and it is also a self-cultivation.
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There is room for doing things, and crossing people is also crossing oneself.
agrees very much with the sentence: "The sky and the earth are wide in the belly, and there are often ferries."
Human hearts are mutual, if you let others take a step, they will respect you.
I told a story from the media author @良Master.
10 years ago, when he was still a large project manager, he was dealing with a client.
Coincidentally, this customer’s supplier made a mistake at a critical moment, so the customer asked them to take over all the business.
He was very happy and hurried to report to the leader.
Who knows, the leader said: "Don't take it all, leave part of the business to the original supplier."
He is puzzled, why should he leave his competitors alive? What if they turn around and bite?
The leader explained: "Competitors have served customers for many years, and they must have a long-standing relationship. If no one is left, they will fight back and cause us trouble. It is better to leave a way out for the other party.
In the end, Master Liang took the initiative to find the customer to help the original supplier, saying that the mistakes they made would be difficult for any company to deal with.
Finally, it is recommended that the customer activate the two suppliers to facilitate the comparison of services.
Since then, they have jointly maintained this project for 5 years.
He thought it would just pass.
Unexpectedly, some time ago, he was suddenly invited to cooperate on several major projects.
Out of professional habit, he asked the manager how to find him, and the other party said it was an instruction from the leader.
When the name of the leader was mentioned, he suddenly realized that he was the project manager of the supplier back then.
This matter touched him deeply:
"In those days, if you rushed to kill you, you wouldn't actually add much income, but you would build a bridge with each other, and it would also build a wall for the future."
Leave room for competitors, which seems to have suffered a little loss, but inadvertently paved a way for the future.
As there is a saying: "Benefits can be shared but not alone, and alone will be defeated."
Don't let the limelight out, take advantage of the benefits, and leave room for others to do things before someone is willing to walk with you.
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To leave room for others is to leave a way for oneself.
"The Tao Te Ching" says: "The way of heaven has no relatives, and you always have good people."
A kind thought or a kind word may make you forge a good relationship.
When the magazine "World" was first established, Su Qing asked Eileen Chang for a draft, and Eileen Chang readily agreed.
But when it was time to submit the manuscript, Zhang Ailing did not send the manuscript.
When Su Qing called to inquire, Zhang Ailing actually said that she had forgotten.
This made Su Qing panic, so he hurried to find someone to fill the vacancy, and it took a lot of setbacks to ensure the publication of the magazine.
When the staff of magazine learned about this, they were very angry and advised her to make the matter public.
But Su Qing not only is not aggressive, but also excuses Zhang Ailing:
"Forget it, she must be entangled in things, otherwise, how could she not submit the paper."
After this incident, Su Qing ignored the previous suspicions and kept asking Zhang Ailing for drafts.
Later, Eileen Chang never missed an appointment, and the two became good girlfriends.
likes this sentence very much: "There is only one way to spare someone, and only one wall to hurt someone."
When interacting with people, everyone is negligent.
When others make mistakes, being reasonable is also forgiving, and being reasonable is also a kind of tolerance, but also a kind of wisdom.
Really smart people know that multiple friends have multiple paths, and an enemy breaks down a bridge.
To leave room for others in everything is to leave a way for oneself.
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There is a saying in "Cai Gen Tan":
"The Zhang Ben who let one step be higher in life, and progress is progress when you step backward; being generous with others is a blessing, the foundation of benefiting others and self-interest."
Everything in the world has cause and effect.
What you do to others, others will do to you.
There is room for everything, and crossing people is also crossing oneself.
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