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I'm not lucky, I just dare to fight for what I deserve
Wen/Li Xiaoyi
1. Lucky, it's another strength
Everyone says that C is the luckiest woman among friends - "lucky" is a complex emotional word, with admiration and admiration on one side, and some unexpected victories on the other.
Especially, C is unattractive in appearance, and the habitual thinking is that luck is exclusive to beautiful women.
However, her development has been smooth, from a basic clerk to a deputy general manager; Married an enviable husband who was tall, handsome, and wealthy. He used to be a client of C Company, surrounded by many women back then, but ultimately chose the less prominent C; She also has a few good friends, and the mention of their names is eye-catching.
C's gains seem to far exceed her strength and dedication, so while people talk about her luck, there is also a bit of prying and curiosity: why is she so lucky?
Years of friends, I particularly understand why C is lucky.
Many years ago, one day, I went to C office to find her to work out with her after work. I caught up with her boss waiting for the elevator, and I looked at his back from a distance and asked her: Do you want to leave later or change the stairs? Isn't it uncomfortable to be on the same ladder as the boss?
C said: Why not take an elevator trip with the boss?
So, the two of us carrying our fitness bags and the boss took the elevator to the first floor at the same time.
C was generous and took the initiative to chat with the boss, without the formality and nervousness of ordinary employees. He even popularized a few fitness knowledge, and also talked about several delicious restaurants nearby, revealing that one of them was a gathering point for an important customer. Farewell, the boss kindly said goodbye to us.
However, I didn't expect that the boss in this elevator would later become C's nobleman, giving her a crucial opportunity for advancement.
Many people think that the nobles in life are arranged with a grand sense of ceremony, standing in the spotlight and waiting passionately. However, in reality, they may be in an inconspicuous corner, in an unexpected moment, observing and examining you for many months as adults, and only when they mature can they reach out to you with the golden finger of turning stones into gold.
So, lucky people are particularly skilled at seizing fleeting opportunities.
Before getting married, I accompanied her to buy wedding shoes.
I know she married a particularly popular man and jokingly asked her if she was nervous. She did not reveal the excitement of marrying a handsome man, but she said calmly and happily:
I love him and treat him well while striving to create opportunities. However, I do not regard marrying him as my ultimate goal in life. If I cannot marry him, I cannot live.
I have the ability to settle down well, and he is also very aware that we will have a better future together, which is 1+1>2. Our emotions and life are also in sync, and marrying me is also his luck.
What is luck? Lucky people are very clear about where their bottom card is, but others cannot see it.
2. Talent and insight are forced out
More than 2000 years ago, there was a particularly lucky ugly woman named Zhong Wuyan.
How ugly is she? With a deep head, long fingers and large knots, a less fat neck, skin like paint, and a sound like a night owl, it makes people hesitate. Over forty years old, not only are they unable to marry, but they are also displaced.
40 years old, the age of being a grandmother in ancient times. Perhaps the humor of historical books lies in depicting a woman who is so ugly that she makes people tremble, comforting other women. You see, she can do it, why can't you do it?
The strangely ugly salt free can only stand out through outstanding intelligence.
She mustered up her courage and ran to the capital city of Qi, Linzi, to meet the King of Qi Xuan. He wanted to serve the country. The King of Qi Xuan laughed heartily and asked her what skills she had. She said solemnly, 'Your Majesty, you are too dangerous.'.
Then, Salt Free developed a set of performance art, looking around, gnashing teeth, waving hands and touching knees.
Everyone was stunned and asked what this meant. Wuyan said, "Look up around the beacon fire, Qin soldiers will soon leave Hangu Pass; Gritting one's teeth is a reminder to the king not to block the way his courtiers advise him; Waving the hand is to persuade the king to remove the treacherous officials, and touching the knee is to advise the king not to build luxurious buildings. Without foresight, how can the state of Qi be strong.
Men appreciate women who help their careers the most.
A woman loves the man who gave her love the most.
King Xuan of Qi realized that Wu Yan had assisted him and married a famous ugly woman. With her advice, he worked hard and appointed generals such as Tian Ji and Sun Bin. Qi became the strongest country and Linzi became the cultural center of the Warring States period.
So, Wuyan became the luckiest woman in history.
However, through the smoke and dust of history, you may see countless ordinary girls who appear to have no ambition but are most willing to spend time and energy burying themselves in things.
Other women are showcasing their love affairs, but she is not in a hurry, so she studies hard; Other women get married and have children, but she is not anxious and continues to work hard; Other women are pondering how to attract and lock in men. They are not disturbed and spend their time with men on themselves, increasing their talent and insight day by day.
Luck is sometimes saved up.
Talent and insight are sometimes forced out.
Accumulated to a certain extent, these ordinary girls erupted. They not only won the life they wanted, but also the ideal marriage, friendship, and career. However, most people only saw their fleeting luck and couldn't recall the efforts and persistence behind them.
3. They didn't compromise casually and won
Many senior goddesses only have a good home in the eyes of the public at a relatively advanced age. At the age of 40, Shu Qi married her good friend Feng Delun, Liu Ruoying became a mother at the age of 45, and the 59-year-old American supermodel, Jerry Hall, who married Murdoch.
Huang Tong Tong once said, why do good girls who are regarded as "leftover girls" end up marrying male gods? Even, many of the girls in life who delay getting married to the point where their family and friends feel like they owe them a boyfriend have married young and talented people.
It seems like fate is good, but they actually deserve it. They didn't compromise as easily as many people do, and dared to play against fate. In the end, they won.
Career and love are the same, just like no one would have thought of the 51 year old magic godmother J. K。 After writing the Harry Potter series, Rowling was able to become the "most successful children's literature writer of all time," from a tenant who couldn't afford a 600 pound rent to a woman wealthier than the Queen of England.
So, who is lucky?
Those beautiful things originally belong to you, but the difference lies in whether you dare to overcome obstacles and not be afraid of encountering a divine dragon; Are you willing to look around and turn back in time when you hit the south wall; Can you know yourself and your opponent, understand your bottom line and advantages; Can you endure loneliness and stay away from vulgar customs that are not suitable for you.
I always remember the day when C chose her wedding shoes, she put on her shoes and stood up, smiling and saying, 'I'm not lucky, I just dare to fight for what I deserve.'.
I think she's telling the truth.
A girl who dares to fight for what she deserves will live well.
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